MKP Equitable Community Train Station

No. 1 • January 2018 • ManKind Project USA

Welcome to the train station! A starting place? A waypoint? Perhaps a new direction. 

The train station is a place to inform, question, challenge and begin to move. Each edition may have information, an interview or personal story, a challenge or exercise, and listings of MKP and local events that serve to develop and infuse intercultural awareness and skills in our community.

All aboard!!

Racism and White Privilege - this month's challenge!

Although abusive male behavior has been much in the news lately, such outing represents more obvious and egregious products of male privilege. 

Exercise:  How have you benefited from male privilege? Probably more than you are aware! How many of these statements below would you answer “some or most of the time” as true for you? On a daily basis as a man,

• I’m far less likely to face sexual harassment at work than my female coworkers are.

• I can be loud with no fear of being called a shrew. I can be aggressive with no fear of being called a bitch.

• If I’m careless with my financial affairs, it won’t be attributed to my sex.

• If I’m careless with my driving, it won’t be attributed to my sex.

• I’m less likely to be the target of street harassment. (The majority of women have experienced street harassment in their lives, and most of the men who do are queer or gender non-conforming.)

• The grooming regimen expected of me is relatively cheap and consumes little time.

• On average, I am not interrupted by women as often as women are interrupted by men.

• I get praise for ordinary parental duties or being a single father (or stay-at-home dad), while mothers are simply expected to do the same and even criticized for single motherhood.

• The media, popular sex advice, and normative definitions of sex focus primarily on my pleasure, especially if I’m cisgender.

• Most pornography is made with my gender in mind, and creates some pretty damaging ideas about women and other genders.

(For more, see 160+ Examples of Male Privilege in All Areas of Life)

Mission at Work: Did you know that the Greater Carolinas ManKind Project has endorsed the Buncombe County Violence Prevention Plan.

For 3 years, Our VOICE, Helpmate, Mountain Child Advocacy Center, and MAHEC have participated on the Violence Prevention Task Force, which is a subcommittee of the Safety Coalition group. They have crafted a 10-year Plan aimed at preventing perpetration of domestic violence, sexual assault and child abuse. The goals and strategies of this plan are attached.

The Better Dads Festival connected with all of the above organizations during festival planning. Those connections led to their request for endorsement by the ManKind Project, which we are delighted to provide. 

Article: Remember “The key is under your mother’s pillow!!?” Check out What’s Going on With Men? The Mother Wound as the Missing Link in Understanding Misogyny by Bethany Webster. Patriarchy, trauma, and privilege all become part of the discussion and Bethany addresses the inner and outer work men must do to reclaim their full humanity and become shepherds of a safer, more compassionate world!